After watching today's episode -Satayamevjayate on Dowry ,I can't resist myself to ask this question - Does dowry improve life for brides?
Dowry system is one of those much discussed systems. Although it is
one of the most hated systems surprisingly it is growing day by day.
Now- a-days this problem has created a lot of hue and cry in our
country. This increasing system is a growing injustice to our society
and morals. It should be immediately stopped.
Marriage is one of the most holy ceremonies in our society. But the horror of the dowry system has made this ceremony one of the feared institutions.
I am looking forward for the views and suggestion. just speak up...lets have good discussion on this topic.
Dowry system is one of those much discussed systems. Although it is
one of the most hated systems surprisingly it is growing day by day.
Now- a-days this problem has created a lot of hue and cry in our
country. This increasing system is a growing injustice to our society
and morals. It should be immediately stopped.Marriage is one of the most holy ceremonies in our society. But the horror of the dowry system has made this ceremony one of the feared institutions.
I am looking forward for the views and suggestion. just speak up...lets have good discussion on this topic.
Ma'am this is nice topic to be discussed...
ReplyDeletethis is one of the many reasons to make marriage ceremony of the feared institutions. the system of dowry could be prevented by giving them security...? like an organization running for the woman.
but still there is one question in my mind...
Mam if Married woman,
ReplyDeletewho is victimized by the dowry system, will sue her family...
then after that, will she be able to live her life safe, easy, fearless and happy with that same peoples...?
Yes, this is burning topic. You can ask your question.
ReplyDeletemam can you point out the reasons that
Deletewhy peoples are using this system of dowry...?
yup bt parents ko hi himat kar k dowry k liye na bol dena chahiye...agr ek demand puri karenge to nxt bhi generat hogi....parent yahi soch k karte h kyu wo apni beti khushi chahte h....bt unfortunately, aesa kar ne se parents un logo ko badawa dete h k wo nxt time bhi aesa kuch kare....so, its bettr k start hone se pehle hi rok dena chahiye...
ReplyDeleteis ko badava dena nai aag lagne se rokna kaha jata he...
Deleteiska matlab he ki agar starting me kuch choti si amount me dowry pay ho sakti he to khali fokat me bati ko kyun problem me dalna..?
DeleteMahesh just think about this.what do they do once the harassment starts? How does it get to such a pass that the daughter feels like she has no way out and kills herself? (Or the torture heaped on her increases until it becomes certain that she isn't going to bring more money and she is killed?) Is it not the parents' fault if she can't feel that she could return to them and ask for help when things go wrong? Is it not the parents' fault for persuading her to live with her husband and/or in-laws and saying "everything will be fine"?
DeleteIf they can come up after her death to allege torture by her husband and in-laws, why did they do nothing while she was alive?
good feed mam... then the knowledge can help in this..
Deleteif she is working women then she can bring money without knocking the doors of her parents home... right..?
Recently I read one article about dowry.I found few pints relevant to your question.
DeleteEvery woman should take responsibility for herself, and refuse to be a victim. Why give in to the first demand for dowry? Why marry a person who asks for money as a condition to marrying you? When there are so many cases of dowry harassment, why put your life and sanity at risk and marry someone who asks for dowry? Why not take your life in your own hands and refuse to give in to pressure from parents or society?
. If they vow not to marry greedy men, if they become economically self-dependent, then this ugly system will automatically disappear.
yes mam this is nice Article
Deletebut koi ase person se marriage nahi karega, who demand for dowry...is logical
and question about the burden of dowry... i think there are three reasons to judge this situation to decided who will bear the burden of it...
1) if she have got married bcoz of her parents force then parents are liable for that.
2) if she have got married on her own risk then she have to bear that.
3) if there is mutual understanding between them then parents of woman must create such background that she would not have to be the victim of dowry... like by providing that couple opportunity to earn by their power...after all she have satisfied their interest...and in-case agar parents me betti ka dil rakha he is decision me to bhi solution is same bcoz they are only who have to bear the burden of dowry...
mam i think solutions are of equal size to the problem...nai
mam plz tell if anything is lacking behind...
yes you are right Akshay... but can you predict the situation of the starting of the process. if the starting of this would be prevented the it wont give birth to the new problem of divorce...?
ReplyDeleteif the first step could be prevent the damage the why shouldn't we take it...?
ReplyDeleteafter all she is our angel how can we see her in trouble...?
ReplyDeletejust think supposed to being a perents parents of a girl child...
Dowry Is a very serious Topic.
ReplyDeleteMain cause are responsible for Dowry
1) illiteracy among women.
2) Greediness among Boys to earn money without efforts.
Solutions you will get from the root cause of dowry.
So to stop Dowry,we can start it from our own family, Society, City, state and then country.
Simply Human
yes i am agree with you..
Deletebut this is not only reasons for dowry.
in each and every case you can find different reasons...
so first we should find the proper reasons then we can proceed...
you are saying lake of education in woman then in current era no one is that illiterate who don't understand and victimized by the dowry...but still they are.. just because of the reflection of situation...
and greediness in boy... in some case i have seen that boys are bound by their family to force her wife to bring money from their parents family...here i will say lake of love in that couple...
and on the part of solution i would like to say...first we have to forget the past, because this system was there in past (in our history)...:)
Sunil you are right. One of the reasons for dowry is illiteracy among women. I want to add here that illiteracy in terms of their legal and constitutional women rights.
DeleteThousands of married women suffer in silence, because domestic violence is rampant. Even if a woman lives in an abusive domestic environment, she will hesitate to come out of marriage in spite of her economic independence. This situation is due to strong addiction to culture and tradition. Such patience is exercised not only for the sake of society and children, but also due to lack of confidence to live as a single woman and face the challenges of life. Don’t know about how to go for justice as they were not aware about
(i) Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961
(ii) The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005
To remove this evil from the society it’s important that our girls must be aware about their rights and educated enough to spend their life alone instead of suffering and facing hell like situation every day. Economic independent give them strength and confidence to raise their voice against injustice.
absolutely right ma'am.... like like like..... :):P
DeleteYour are sooo right mam...
ReplyDeleteekdham corret...
but being an animal i cant live alone for whole life, but i am male so i can't understand the strangth and mantel situation of female...
but can't suffer from that hell situation also...
i will try to find some middle way depend on situation...
Its nice that u all are serious about it
ReplyDeleteIts nice that u all are serious about it
ReplyDeleteYes , we have to be serious about this evil.I am always against of dowry system.My parents provided good education and knowledge, and for me that is my Dowry. My simple question yet may be difficult to answer for readers.......Do you have courage to say NO to dowry?? Will you come forward to remove this system from our society??
Deleteyes ma'am i am with you..
Deleteand i will stand with you in this kind of your efforts...
In India har 1000 ladko ke bich 932 ladkiya hai (i think), so the ladies should start demanding as they are in demand. But the problem arrises ki sabko achcha ladka chahiye hota hai jo kam hai. And parents pay the price to buy that person and the girl who is getting married also accept that. In spme cases woh galat ho jate hai. So who is responsibe? Boys family who demanded the price for the boy or the girl nd family who paid the price to buy the boy and secure girls future??
ReplyDeleteAmit Sir, its not the question about girls or boys family fault. you are correct in sense that most of indians have same mentality.
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